Divorce can be very stressful even without all the sticky legal battles that often take place. Mediation is often a good option to avoid a lengthy legal process, but is it right for you? Here’s a guide to help you make that decision. The following information will lead you to know more about if this is the ideal course of action you should be taking or not given your situation.

Can You Identify What’s Best for Your Family?

One question to ask yourself when contemplatingExternal link opens in new tab or window divorce mediation is if you think you know what’s best for your family or if you can quickly identify it if you see it. Divorce meditation is likely a good option for you and your spouse if your answer to this question is yes. It’s a wise choice if you know what you want and you don’t feel you need someone to be there every step of the way to help you figure it out.

Are You Prepared to Make Your Own Decisions About Your Future?

Both parties will likely do well in the mediation process if your answer is yes to this particular question. Both people must take responsibility and ownership over the decisions you’re about to make if it’s going to work. You need to take into account both your individual and collective needs and desires. Your goal is to develop a settlement that takes into account both perspectives.

Are You Able to Understand the Financial Information & Options if They’re Explained to You?

Another question you should ask yourself to know if divorce meditation is right for you is if you can sufficiently understand the financial implications and reality. A financial or finance background is not required to go through the process. However, you’ll need to clearly understand the implications of the financial explanations that will be presented to you during your session.

Are You Comfortable & Capable of Speaking up for Yourself in the Presence of Your Spouse with the Assistance of the Mediator?

The purpose of mediation is to work through the conflict together and come to an agreement. It’s not to rehash the same old argument or idea and continue to argue. You can likely reach a settlement you’re both happy with if you’re comfortable with and prepared to speak up and speak your truth, with the assistance of the mediator. Keep in mind that while it might feel good to have your voice heard, these sessions can also be painful and challenging.


Review and answer these questions to determine if divorce mediation is right for you or not. Negotiating an agreement together (versus speaking through attorneys), offers both parties the chance to have a shift in conversation. It’s an opportunity to process the story of your marriage differently. While the conversation might be tough and cause you some discomfort, the process frequently leads to feelings of empowerment. This guide is a way for you and your spouse to determine the right path and best next steps for you and your family.